Tuesday 3rd Week of Lent.
Forgiveness of another is a first step to reconciliation.
There are times when a concerned family member or friend will tell me,
“My family member has terrible pains in their chest
but will not go to the doctor.”
I’ve even met people who said
that such a person has died.
They were so grieved that their family member
would not see their doctor.”
Perhaps we know someone to whom we offered forgiveness
and sought reconciliation but they refused.
Forgiveness is a first step to reconciliation.
We pray for the grace
to always be open to reconciliation.
We never know the moment
that another person’s heart will change
and we have to be ready
to welcome them once again into our hearts.
Forgiveness is just one-sided
where reconciliation takes two or more people.
If we find it difficult to forgive another
let’s not just throw up our hands
and stay stuck in our pain.
It can take time and the deeper the hurt
the more time it can take.
It is similar to a serious surgery where a deep cut
will take a lot more time than just a surface wound.
I want to say that the man in the gospel
was not used to forgiving people
and that was the reason he didn’t appreciate
the generous mercy his master offered him.
He probably rehearsed his hurts
over and over again until he convinced himself
that the other person was as good as dead to him.
Please God we are not there but if we are there with someone
go to Jesus and ask for his mercy
telling him all the things you don’t like about yourself
with this deep hurt in your life.
A good confession to acompassionate priest
will go a long way to opening the door of our heart to forgiveness.
Once I experience reconciliation with the Lord and myself
I can begin to pray for the good of the other person.
Jesus never tells us that forgiveness is easy
but he always says that it’s necessary.
Let us just pause for a moment and pray for each other
and anyone we know who finds it difficult to forgive.